I know many people hate when those moments in life come, where they have to be alone. No one wants to be alone, especially when you see other people together and looking happy. This Morning we’re talking about how to get used to your own company, and how to use time wisely in getting to know yourself.
It is New Year’s Eve, and I hope everyone has plans and will be safe tonight when it gets near time to count down. As for me, I will be at home probably watching Steve Harvey host the New Year’s Eve event in New York City.
WHAT’S SO SCARY ABOUT BEING ALONE?
I once heard a wise person say that it’s not the person you tend to miss, but the routine. This is what causes those feelings of anxiety and depression after splitting. Don’t mean to put a damper on anything, but if you’ve been going for more than five years there’s definitely going to be a challenge there.
All it means is that for those years that you’ve spent with one single person, you’ve made a routine for yourself where this is what you do together; but, you’re never left alone.
The scary part of being alone is when you feel like no one will understand how you’re feeling. Life offers a variety of options, when it comes to being alone. It’s not to say that you can’t talk to anyone, but it’s just not in the way that you want it.
HERE’S THE PERFECT EXAMPLE
Let’s say something common happens; you outgrow a relationship and you need to move on. You need to get back to searching for your calling, but you’re too distracted giving your time to other people who don’t even want to make time for you.
So, instead you run away from the possibility that you might be in this alone. You feel that having someone there to provide you attention will be the very thing to fix the problem. No!
Learn to be lonely, because it’s going to be the very thing that teaches you about your capabilities and strength. I’ve come to find that being alone isn’t always scary. Being alone puts you in a place of having to deal with yourself.
THE PART ABOUT SELF-DISCOVERY
The discovery about self sometimes unveils the beautiful and ugly things. It says that without a person there are certain parts of you that are still able to shine, and other parts that need working on. It’s best to do what you can with what you have.
If you’re going to discover yourself, I’m praying that you discover the part of you that has so much calling that it will help others in their journey. Don’t hesitate to be alone with yourself, because just when you make perfect change then the right stuff will fall into place for you.
Self discovery leads to a road of self-love, where you can now be tender with yourself and be a little more patient with figuring out what is more fit for your character. Maybe you’re sensitive about things and you don’t think you can do it alone….don’t under estimate yourself.
Don’t be afraid of your own company.
KC Copeland, LLC 